4-Play is a comfortable, exciting and non-aggressive environment in which to explore your sexual desires and fantasies and to meet some really great people. Newcomers can expect a friendly, outgoing, well-mannered and interesting crowd. We have an excellent sound system, private dance floor, cold-drinks and complimentary snacks. On your first visit, you will be welcomed and introduced to other guests, and given a tour of the facilities. There are couples with many levels of experience in the membership roster at 4-Play; we have veterans and rookies alike. Dress is casual, but clean, tidy and attractive. Dress as sexily as you dare and feel comfortable.  Imagine that you are on a first date:  dress to impress! 

It is a good idea to check the night’s theme for any special dress expectations. Theme nights can range from an 80's night to a lingerie night; you may feel more comfortable if you are dressing to fit in with the theme. If you are not into themes, just dress as you please following the above guidelines. 

If you see someone you know, don't be embarrassed.   Remember, they are at the same place for the same reasons. 

There are no stupid questions, so don't be afraid to ask anything. It's how you learn more of what to expect. Have an open and honest discussion with your partner before you arrive at the club, although the first time you attend you will likely come up with a lot more to discuss. Be sure that your expectations, fears and insecurities are discussed thoroughly. These talks should happen long before deciding to go to the club for the first time; on the drive to the club is not the time to get into these discussions. It is also a good idea to "act out" any scenarios that you can think of and what you think each of your reactions may be to them. The lifestyles community is not the place to try to "fix" problems in your relationship with your partner. This must be a mutual decision; one partner should not feel pressured into attending. 

The most important thing to remember is that you will most likely be nervous and anxious on your first visit to the club, but you should go with an open mind and with the knowledge that you and your partner are there to enhance your existing relationship. 
 

Etiquette (Lifestyle Rules):

The staff and management of 4-Play want you to be aware that any play will be at your own risk.  The owners or the club will not be responsible for any injuries or illnesses caused by unsafe activities. 

There is a zero tolerance policy at the club: we do not tolerate drunks, excessive drinking or drug use. We expect that everyone be treated with dignity and respect. We do not promote pressure or aggressive behaviour. Respect other people's rights.

The cardinal rule at any swing club is that "No Means No". Uninvited or non-consensual touching or grabbing will not be tolerated.

If you encounter any problems or difficulties, please bring them to management’s attention immediately. Clearly communicate your preferences, limitations and expectations. Confidentiality, privacy and discretion are important to everyone. We practice it and expect that you will, too. No cameras or video recorders are permitted at the club. A little common courtesy goes a long way to smoothing what can be, at times, (especially for beginners) an awkward experience. 

Be Yourself - People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. Be open to meeting new people and experiencing the ambience. Whether or not you are interested in swinging with someone, remember to always be polite. You may have other things in common and develop a friendship, despite the fact that you never connect in an intimate setting. In the lifestyle, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people over time. Through them you may meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate. Of course, it hardly needs to be said that people who cannot control their jealousy, or who are prone to uncontrolled behaviour of any kind should avoid the club. 

Be Courteous - The lifestyle experience can raise valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You're not always going to meet people who share the same views. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort levels, especially your partner’s. In a group situation, a friendly "hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort. At all times, act in an adult fashion; gossip and backstabbing does not show courtesy and consideration for others. The lifestyle community is a small world and "What goes around, comes around". If you find that your interests are in different directions, or an attraction isn’t mutual, remember to remain polite and treat others as you would wish to be treated. In most instances you will meet with these people again at a future date. When meeting a potential partner one-on-one (or two-on-two, or one-on-two as the case may be) the same applies: be polite and courteous at all times.  

Cleanliness - If you really want to bring an intimate evening to an abrupt end, DON'T SHOWER or BRUSH YOUR TEETH! In many ways, swinging is just like dating; you have to make yourself presentable and attractive to others, even more so if you expect the evening will involve intimacy. It's always a good idea to carry a small accessory case with you, containing a sample size mouthwash, breath mints/gum, deodorant, perfume / cologne and condoms. A small kit like this can easily be kept in your car's glove compartment for quick, easy access. 

Don't Push, Don't Rush - Remember, "NO means NO".  Anyone has the right to refuse your advances, just as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any explanations; in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes" no matter how much pressure or persuasion you apply.  If there is someone that you would like to swing with, let them know in a friendly, non-pressure manner and listen to their response with courtesy and respect, whatever it may be. If they change their mind at a later date, they will let you know. 

Practice Safe Sex - Practicing safe sex is, of course a personal choice, but it is a very important choice in the lifestyle today. Condoms are provided at the club as a convenience and should only be used as a novelty item. Using a condom is considered to be acting responsibly and respectfully.  

Leave "Club Politics" Out of It - The nurturing of the lifestyle community depends upon everyone showing respect for the choices other people make. Petty bickering and an adversarial relationship between clubs are bad for the lifestyle community. Lifestyle clubs should never be "in conflict" with each other. Different clubs and social groups meet different needs for different folks...it's all good. The lifestyle community is a small world. 

Enjoy Yourself!!! - Being in the lifestyle is about having a good time. Live some fantasies explore your sexuality and enjoy! The lifestyle community has plenty to offer with your clothes on as well as off. Approach the lifestyle with a positive, mature and responsible attitude. A good sense of humour doesn't hurt either.