Terminology

Vanilla - Someone who is not in the Lifestyle.

Poser - A person who claims to be a swinger, but never actually plays with anyone.

Unicorn - A single female who enjoys having sex with couples.

Bi-curious - Someone who is interested in exploring their bisexuality, but hasn't yet had the chance.

Bi-comfortable - They finally had the chance, and discovered that while they are comfortable with it, they really just prefer playing with the opposite sex.

Bi-sexual - Someone who enjoys sexual play with people of both genders

Soft swap - A couple who likes to play, but draws the line somewhere short of intercourse. This covers a very broad spectrum, as a 'soft swap' couple might limit themselves to just touching, or they might be okay with and enjoy oral sex, just not vaginal sex. Communication is critical so everyone understands the limits.

Full swap - Intercourse included!

Same Room - Couples who only play in the presence of their significant other, with everyone having sex in the same room, even with other people. This is the majority, but certainly not all, of the couples in the lifestyle

Voyeur - Someone who really just prefers to watch, and finds their enjoyment that way. Some couples have husbands or wives who are voyeurs and enjoy their wife or husband play; Some couples are both voyeurs (And some are down right exhibitionists!)

Fetish - A strong, erotic urge to a particular thing or action. Some people are uncontrollably turned on by a specific body part (e.g. feet), others by a particular scent, others still by a specual costume, and some by a certain form of sex or physicality.

Play - To engage in sexual activity is to 'play'. If someone asks you to play, they don't mean cards.

Meet & Greet - A gathering of swingers at an off-premise location, where you can meet others in the lifestyle.

Takeover - When a group of lifestylers pay to secure 100% of a facilty for a swinger event. No vanilla people are allowed at the facility during a takeover.

DP - Double Penetration. Some girls experience intense pleasure by having two guys at the same time, one anally and the other vaginally.

Naturist - A nudist, and probably not a swinger. Just because someone likes to get naked doesn't mean they are comfortable with their sexuality.

On-Premise/Off-Premise - Simply says whether sexual activity is permitted at the facility. On-premise clubs have areas where people can play, off-premise clubs don't.

'No' - Means 'no'. It's not personal, and it's not a big deal as there are always others who want to play. When someone says no, you say 'thanks', and move on.

Lifestyle - Living your life free of inhibitions and repression, enjoying time with others who share the same outlook and who savor life like you do.